Bunker Friends

Do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth...welcome to the bunker.

Bunker friends are solid...true friends...people who care about you, your kids and your family...there are plenty of circumstantial friend who we are thrown together with in our stress-ridden modern society...but a bunker friend is someone you don't have to say "this stays between us"...a true friend is a confidant, someone who knows you need to vent and have an honest conversation ...someone who you might not see or talk to for 8 weeks but can head out on a walk and pick up where you left off...someone who has your back and is not conflicted...free of ulterior motives and juggling too many relationships...when circumstance change a circumstantial friend  will  toss you under the bus for a better offer a bunker friend will drag you out from under the bus!  Who the is driving this suburban bus to hell anyway and did they not see all of us discarded friends under here screaming???

Non-bunker friends are great to have...they are the "lets have lunch" friends...some are even fake fakers and wantabe's that you don't even know who they want to be or why they want to be with you...but we can have dinner with almost anyone, at least once...some non-bunker friends are lovely but they have their own bunker friends and don't have anymore energy to invest...they are the keep it easy and light friends...then there are china quality friends...handle them with kid gloves because if you mis-handle these folks the relationship starts to crack and can break apart...then you will be left picking up sharp pieces that if not carefully handled will cut you 'til you bleed...shit that sounds bad.

One of my favorite bunker friends is tried and true...i know that if i needed a kidney she would not sleep until she found me one!! Bunker friends don't stand on ceremony obsessing the over the who called last rule...if  i need to, want to or just feel like it I call...i hope my friends would do the same..if i sense that you need a call, i call...or text as that has replaced the quick 'just checking in' call...i remember one of my girl scout songs fondly which said it the best to "make new friends, but keep the old, some are silver and some are GOLD"...Keep those golden bunker friends, invest in them, be open to making new friends, try and know people and understand them, know if they are capable of being in your bunker, otherwise just have lunch.