adults are often a big disapointment

i am still amazed how disappointed i can get from the actions and words of other adults..okay i know what you are thinking now -  i should be a bigger person and not let all the shit that flies hit me in the face and make me wanna vomit...however don't you think that adults...lets classify that as humans over about 32...should generally speaking know how to act with civility and kindness toward one another...especially toward children...oh i am not talking about pedophiles...they just suck and are bad people...but i am talking about adults that make bad decisions because they have a road map and a set of rules that are inflexible or have an agenda and need to stay the course rather than assess the situation and proceed accordingly...in general i try to stay clear...i don't want all those people in my head...it stirs up anxiety and frankly this time of year it is bad for my golf game...concentrating on the 999 rules of golf is enough for this girl...my limited capacity to deal with shit makes me stay clear and stay in my hovel unless i am forced out to procure food or a new outfit, which usually has to do with going someplace where i will eat food...okay so back the the bad people

i can usually process the crap when i get left out of something or someone thinks my outfit is bad or my ass looks fat...but make my kid feel bad...well you have now released the Kraken !!! years ago my son played on a sports team...little tykes...not even a tryout, travel or uber-select team...just a little tykes sign on team...he played by the rules and stuck with the age appropriate team...his friends all thinking they were the next great whoever had their parents get them onto the team with the older kids who had been playing together all season...these kids no longer play and my kid went onto be the captain of his high school team but these parents had an agenda and stuck with it.

and why is it always sports...do people really think that for 99.9% of the student athlete population how they do on little tykes teams really matter later in life...i played soccer in college, great, i still got the same education, went to the same type of college i would have gone to sports or no sports and my intellectual pursuits are not about how many black and white shapes (and what they are called) are on a soccer ball....and i never had to blow off or show up late to a birthday party or a celebration...do we think when we decide that to choose sports over friends that are kids are going to grow up and say "wow, i should have played that extra game, tournament, practice rather than go to my buddies celebration?" No i think when they are all grown these kids are going to say "wow my body hurts i played sports more days then there are in a week for more weeks then there are in a year, year after year"

when its not sports its cutting comments like "oh and what does it take to get into that school" or "my kid did not play badly but little sally sue johnny doe did not pass the ball and therefore little sally sue johnny doe could not score" ...or comments like "oh no my kid would never do the school play or art show, its to amateurish for them"....really people my father always told me that if you have nothing nice to say than shut the fuck up....well he is nicer than that...he just said, then don't say anything at all -

i would add to that "if you can't behave nicely just stay inside and don't interact with anyone"...and whats amazing is those with dirty little secrets are often the ones who behave the worst...your secret is not safe when you act badly...because people with secrets always give them away...they simply don't respond to questions or discussions around a topic that is sensitive to them, they redirect the topic in a negative way...or they have a party and don't include people who know their secret...really that's a blatant give away...people with dirty little secrets to hold should be nice and play by the rule...keep your friends close and those who know your secret closer...or your secret will come back to bit you in the ass

Remember, where ever you go there you are....with all your secrets and baggage....be nice, be respectful, not telling the truth is a lie no matter how you slice it...so be inclusive, create harmony, let the kid play on the team, invite the neighbor to the party or just stay inside and let everyone else enjoy the air.