really...is it necessary?...i am all for embellishing the truth...either to the upside or for the sake of overstating the negative...come on it captures the audience and makes the story just that much more entertaining...an educated story listener will know where you are going...i mean who cares if the chicken crossed the road...but a chicken wearing prada and tory burch...oh and this chicken's husband has retired during the stock market crash because he was oh that good...and yeah the chicken could do whatever she wanted because the husband is actually having an affair and to cover it up throws feed at his little chicken...oh no i digress...
...okay lying by not telling the or avoiding giving information...the passive aggressive form of lying...you ask you local gal pal a simple question...."so what are you doing this weekend??"...she responds with the cadre of typical suburban fare...sports, camp stuff, errands...blah, blah, blah...and we are going to dinner at 'The Yummy New Restaurant'...oh yeah...so you respond..."who are you going with?"...FRIENDS...duh...would you be going with enemies...like seriously if i took the time to talk to you and am wondering what you are up to this weekend don't you think that i probably know who your 'friend' is...so why not just come clean...what are you hiding...really what is the point...so you have plans with xx and xy...when i find out on Monday from someone who knows someone who knows xx and xy and saw you all out at the swanky "Yummy New Restaurant" i will come back to you and say "so i hear you had dinner with xx and xy" and you will say "how do you know"...seriously, i know because i do...you think now after your passive aggressive lying i am going to tell you how i know...get real...
...okay so you can't take it personally when someone lies or reveals little...
they are fearful of something...fearful that they are losing something, or that something is being taken away from them by giving too much info - they must have been abused in some way as a child)....it is a sign of weakness or insecurity..frustrating to us, but their problem...I usually don't care, but if I do, I force them to recognize what they are doing by outright asking what it is I think they are hiding..."so with whom are you going out to dinner?"...try say 'friends' to that sucker...i also know that you went shopping with another friend and ditched me to go to someone else's party...but hey you are my good friend right ;-))
In the long run, we pick and choose what we need in a friend and weigh their assets and faults. When I recognize a fault in a friend, I feel sorry for them...but honestly, honesty is top on my list of qualities that I look for in a friend, so I just dismiss those who don't have it..I dismiss a lot of people because of that...I put on a good face, but I don't confide in them....i know they are lying...and they have no idea that i know...shame on them...
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