why not say no

i'm not ready to drop the NO thing...the more people i talk to the more i realize folks just don't say NO and then just belly ache about the consequences....why suffer...know when to say NO...how can you be the best you if everything you are doing is out of quilt and insecurity...who is benefiting...while the people who have convinced you that it is in your best interest to say YES to them...you can't say NO to your kids...they are not your friends..they will benefit from learning boundaries and the art of NO you can't have this, do that, go there...but NO...you say YES...do, go, have...yikes it all leads to over indulged kids...who are nasty and spoiled and un- appreciative since you never say NO...your kids will love you even if you say NO and your friends will respect you if  you say NO...and frankly if they don't then as the old adage goes they are not really your friends...